Why Toxic Masculinity is so Toxic

Toxic masculinity is a term used to describe overly vulgar male behaviour and often consists of the poor treatment and a power dynamic with women. It effects everyone, irrespective of gender, values and whether you think you even have the symptoms. Whether you are a male sportsman at university, a woman working in London, or a mother parenting their child, the notion of toxic masculinity plays a part in your life. It not only effects the individual who has contracted it but everyone around them.

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How On The Road Changed My Life

It has almost become fashionable to read On The Road. Due to its influence on countless creators, notably Bob Dylan, it gets credited as a coming of age book for the young adult. The book certainly changed my life and was one of the main catalysts for getting me out of a bad mental state. I really do owe Jack Kerouac more than the £20 I have spent on his books. 

The book is written in continuous prose- a format that presents the author’s/protagonist’s thought patterns as he tells his story, as if verbally. There is a subtle effect from this idea of saying ‘this happened, then this happened, then this happened’, where it shows a high regard for the present, the main reason this book is so important.

Sal Paradise, Kerouac’s alias in the book, is lost in this world, unsure what it all means. But his travelling friend Dean Moriarty is an archetype if the idea of being mindful, in the moment, and living in the now. Kerouac chases this way of living and whilst travelling around America he also has this notable quality. He falls in love and moves on with ease, back on to the road. Whatever the concern; women, money, where to sleep, the answer is always to carry on down the road of life and on to the next adventure.

The book encapsulates the idea that you can be pragmatic and rational in decision making about emotional issues, without worry and anxiety overwhelming them. In modern society, we sweat over the small stuff and, in truth, welcome the feeling of worry. On The Road shows a much simpler time, that we should all try to learn from.

This book did something to the way I understand life and really developed my mindful self. I’d highly recommend it to anyone questioning and being overwhelmed by life.

Can an Atheist go to Church?


For my past adult and teenage life I have considered myself an atheist. Since learning rationalisation in science and the ‘importance’ of empirical evidence, the idea of faith has always been lost on me.

However, over the past months I have been regularly attending a church group as well as reading about Christian and Buddhist faiths.

Although I am not a religious person I would consider myself a spiritual person (yes, you can be spiritual and not religious). From my time spent being immersed in a faith I don’t class myself in, I have noticed great and enhancing effects to my outlook on life, relationships and myself. Continue reading “Can an Atheist go to Church?”

Why is a Schedule Important?

glenn-carstens-peters-190592-unsplashThe real reason schedules help is an indirect consequence: the ability they have to make us feel present. 

Think about times where you feel a bit lost in what you are doing. Maybe things are tough at work; the load is piling up and you don’t even know where to start. You feel yourself getting hot under the collar, as everyone around you seems to be getting on so well and simply. You’re at a point where you can’t even think about what the problem is, just the overwhelming sense of having a problem.

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How Crossfit Helps with Mental Health

Over the last month I have recently started a journey into the sport of crossfit. After become bored of my traditional training methods and seeing YouTubers ‘The Lean Machines’ enjoying the sport, I wanted to give it a go.

A high intensity mixture of cardio, weightlifting and gymnastics, the idea with crossfit is that workouts are always varied and test your functional fitness and strength.
After my recent experience with crossfit I have noticed several reasons why it is a brilliant choice for your mental health exercise. Continue reading “How Crossfit Helps with Mental Health”

Comfort Eating and a Healthy Eating Mindset


So many people, including me for the majority of my life, have a difficult relationship with food. We binge, we succumb to the immediate pleasure sugars and salts bring and then, after we see we’ve gained weight, either attempt to block out every unhealthy food, or numb the guilt with more of the same.  Continue reading “Comfort Eating and a Healthy Eating Mindset”

Self-Counselling, Meditation and Checking in on Yourself


Recovering from a major dip in your mental health is a long process. In my opinion there are two major stages. The first is the hard part. The battle. Getting oneself back to a mindset of positivity and out of the slump and self-abusive lifestyle and thought processes. The second, in theory and action is a lot easier. It occurs once you feel back to your normal self and doesn’t feel like a battle like the climb from the low. This part is more like reevaluating your mental health; you’re the doctor visiting your mind for a check-up. But however simple this step is, too many people fail to revisit past traumas, block them out and eventually end up back in the place they were in before.

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World Mental Health Day


World Mental Health Day challenges the stigma that society has linked with confronting emotional problems. People should feel able to talk about their mental health any day of the year, but for a lot of people this simply isn’t the case. World Mental Health Day is one of the ways organisations are trying to break these barriers.

If you are someone who is struggling to bring awareness to other people of any mental health concerns you may be experiencing, today is a great day to start talking. Below are some links to UK based charities, services and information that may be useful.

It is perfectly OK to have medical and psychological help with your mental health. Approximately one in four people in the UK will be affected by a mental health problem every year. Please try to acknowledge and accept when you or people around you need some support. These statistics would be nowhere near as high if the health of our minds was treated with the same openness as the health of the rest of our bodies.

20 Tips for a Happier Life


Most of these will probably be discussed in more detail in future posts, but for now here are my 20 tips to make happiness a more common emotional state in your life. Whether you are feeling particularly low, or are just generally curious as to how to improve your wellbeing, use this list to your advantage. Continue reading “20 Tips for a Happier Life”

The Good Addiction


I used to be addicted. It was great. The thing that got me out of bed in the morning; that made me feel invincible. I’ve slipped from my addiction and it’s left me feeling the opposite. The brilliant side effects of running that had become the norm to me have depleted since I stopped, leaving me feeling uncontent with my current situation.

The endorphins that exercise gives you are like a shot of dopamine straight to the brain. Running makes you feel proud of yourself and happy with the fact you’re positively affecting your life. As well as kickstarting these encouraging thoughts, in my own
unscientific logic, it also seems to tire and settle the part of the brain that anxiety and worrying stem from. Ultimately, our thoughts and emotions are choices and we decide what they are; we just battle ourselves to make them positive. Think of it as thought exercise makes our negative opponent weaker, and our true self stronger.

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